In the dating thread on one of the message boards I read, a board member posted that for some reason, the majority of men she goes on dates with turn out to be hardcore conservatives. While she, presumably a liberal, claims not to mind this, the most recent man she’s dated is anti-Obama, anti-government, and owns a lot of guns. He also subjects her to his views but won’t listen to hers.** After he called for a fourth date, OP declined, citing their views as being too different.
Sir Libertarian didn’t read this as a rejection and instead began calling and leaving Facebook messages stating his belief that they are perfect for each other and that she’ll come around.
OP says that she has been ignoring him but is now afraid that he will start coming to her house, even though he has never been to her house before. (He happens to know one of her neighbors.) OP has sent one message to Sir Lib to stop messaging her, but he hasn’t stopped. OP then asks the board for advice on how to protect herself.
So far there has only been one response***, which was to start keeping a Stalker Journal immediately. Responder advised OP to (a) keep every single message exchanged between them, (b) to threaten him with going to the authorities if he doesn’t stop, and (c) to go to the authorities if threats don’t work.
It should be obvious to all the regulars around these parts that Sir Lib’s true problem wasn’t that he had conservative beliefs, but that he just wasn’t a sexy alpha. He had enough rudimentary game to make it to a third date with OP, but not enough game to make his holding of conservative beliefs attractive to OP, or to enact radio silence when OP rejected him. In bombarding OP with what I presume to be teasing admonitions that she’ll come around, Sir Lib came off as needy, and therefore beta, and therefore scary. (Men should not be afraid of women complaining that a man didn’t want to be friends/stopped all contact after a breakup. A woman can curse your existence up and down for such jerkiness, but the more she curses you, the more she is secretly attracted to your alpha non-neediness. If you ever had a chance with a woman, sometimes falling off the face of the planet is the best way to get her back.)
But all of this is elementary stuff. I think the more troublesome issue in the above scenario is that OP fears Sir Lib and that she is being advised to keep a Stalker Journal. This is not to say that stalking is not a real phenomenon or that there are never situations where such action is warranted, but as far as I can tell, Sir Lib hasn’t made threats to OP or written weird or disturbing things to her. By her own admission, he has never shown up at her house. Furthermore, OP says that their last date was last week, so it’s not like this has been going on for that long. But Sir Lib’s beta behavior (and ten bucks says he thinks he’s full of alpha swagger) is enough to inspire fear.
There are some here who consistently pooh-pooh Game and think it’s a big joke, but the above scenario, which I don’t think is an uncommon occurrence, negates that. Sir Lib, if he doesn’t get it together, could find himself under investigation by the police, and all because he didn’t have Game; well, maybe not Game moves so much as inner Game. But inner Game is a huge part of having Game at all. We like to gnash our teeth over alphas getting all the breaks, but I think the above scenario shows how having Game can save your life and reputation.
By the way, in defense of OP – Sir Lib seems to be someone she didn’t know well prior to going out with him. Since his character was unvetted, it’s natural for her to jump to the worst conclusion in the name of self-preservation. When it comes to strange men, women are taught to err on the side of caution. (Not that women err that way too much when the guy is a sexy alpha, BUT.)
**He probably just didn’t listen the right way, not that he didn’t listen at all.
***Since I began writing this post, there have been two more responses, both agreeing wholeheartedly about the Stalker Journal.