This is apropos of a situation I’ve been dealing with on an ongoing basis for quite a while.
Women, please learn to walk in dress shoes.
There is little that signifies an off-putting lack of femininity more than a woman’s clomping around in dress shoes, each step a thunderous thud that shakes the earth as her body bobs up and down, pitched forward at the waist to keep balance. When a woman walks in heels (and, for that matter, in general), she should not bring to mind a hiker with an imaginary backpack trudging up a trail, or a floppy rag doll filled with sand.
Whether the heel is one or four inches, the back should be straight, the shoulders back, and the steps light. The neck through the waist should be as one, sustained in the core, never breaking, like a pillar balanced over the hips. Arms should swing naturally at the side. Movement from Point A to Point B should resemble a smoothly flowing stream, not a piston chugging in a factory.
An awkward, galumphing walk can undo all of the good of:
- a pretty dress
- a manicure
- perfectly styled hair
- pristine makeup
- a good personality
Okay, maybe not all of the good, but it will severely weaken the effect of all of the above, assuming you have any of those to begin with. (If you have none or few of the above, you will ensure with a poor walk that no men will approach you with any romantic interest, and you will also damage your standing in a career setting. No one will send someone who walks like Sasquatch to charm the clients.)
If you have a bad walk, practice until you have a better one. YouTube has a bunch of tutorials on how to walk in heels. I would also suggest trying ballet, yoga, or pilates: these will help you develop the kind of carriage that is more conducive to walking in heels.