GirlTip: learn to walk in dress shoes.

27 Aug

This is apropos of a situation I’ve been dealing with on an ongoing basis for quite a while.

Women, please learn to walk in dress shoes.

There is little that signifies an off-putting lack of femininity more than a woman’s clomping around in dress shoes, each step a thunderous thud that shakes the earth as her body bobs up and down, pitched forward at the waist to keep balance.  When a woman walks in heels (and, for that matter, in general), she should not bring to mind a hiker with an imaginary backpack trudging up a trail, or a floppy rag doll filled with sand.

Whether the heel is one or four inches, the back should be straight, the shoulders back, and the steps light.  The neck through the waist should be as one, sustained in the core, never breaking, like a pillar balanced over the hips.  Arms should swing naturally at the side.  Movement from Point A to Point B should resemble a smoothly flowing stream, not a piston chugging in a factory.

An awkward, galumphing walk can undo all of the good of:

  • a pretty dress
  • a manicure
  • perfectly styled hair
  • pristine makeup
  • a good personality

Okay, maybe not all of the good, but it will severely weaken the effect of all of the above, assuming you have any of those to begin with.  (If you have none or few of the above, you will ensure with a poor walk that no men will approach you with any romantic interest, and you will also damage your standing in a career setting.  No one will send someone who walks like Sasquatch to charm the clients.)

If you have a bad walk, practice until you have a better one.  YouTube has a bunch of tutorials on how to walk in heels.  I would also suggest trying ballet, yoga, or pilates:  these will help you develop the kind of carriage that is more conducive to walking in heels.


12 Responses to “GirlTip: learn to walk in dress shoes.”

  1. Toz August 27, 2010 at 10:53 am #

    If only looking more masculine were this easy…

  2. Artem August 27, 2010 at 11:46 am #

    It is, actually, quite easy. Hit the gym, get a fitting pair of pants that don’t make you look as if you just pooped in them, a fitted shirt, walk straight, shoulders back, chin up, with a little bit of a swagger but not too much, and make it all look natural. Pretty much the same skill as (some) women have.

  3. Lover of Wisdom August 27, 2010 at 2:57 pm #

    I’ve see girls in very high heels walk with the “hiker’s bend,” some of them very attractive, whom I never would ask out because they give off a general lack of refinement—they seem like proles.

    What are your thoughts, Haley, on girls attending a finishing school?

  4. Aunt Haley August 27, 2010 at 5:49 pm #

    What are your thoughts, Haley, on girls attending a finishing school?

    For a lot of girls, especially those who want to marry well (either well or ~well~), it’s not a bad idea. I used to tutor a lot of women who were early/mid 20s, no education beyond high school, if that, usually with a kid or two not always by the same man, and I knew that for many of them, their desire and hard work for a better life would not yield them better results with men. They simply lacked the refinement a high class man would expect and be attracted to in a woman.

  5. Aunt Haley August 27, 2010 at 11:04 pm #

    Toz, I really don’t recommend that you put on some high heels and go clodding around like a wildebeest. That’s…not going to make you seem more masculine, to say the least. Artem’s solution is a much safer bet.

  6. Toz August 30, 2010 at 10:15 am #


    No need to worry about my manliness. My wife will probably tell you it’s too much as it is. I’m more worried about the wussified single men I see at church. A lot easier to feminize women than to masculinize men is all I meant to say.

  7. Aunt Haley August 30, 2010 at 4:09 pm #

    A lot easier to feminize women than to masculinize men is all I meant to say.

    Hmm…want to put money on that?

    (Theoretically, of course. As a Christian I would never want to encourage ~gambling.)

  8. Cane Caldo August 30, 2010 at 8:51 pm #

    It seems that way to us because we have a man’s perspective.

  9. Toz August 31, 2010 at 6:17 am #

    i’m game for a friendly bet. got some experiment to prove your side of the argument?

  10. Aunt Haley August 31, 2010 at 10:44 am #

    Toz, being no Henry Higgins, I am not sure I could lure any women into such an arrangement. Plus, old habits die hard.

  11. David Collard August 31, 2010 at 9:39 pm #

    My wife actually went to a charm school when she was my fiancee to give her a bit more polish. She doesn’t walk badly in high heels, but I don’t usually see her in them, except in intimate situations.


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