I know the subject line sounds a little like Adult Life Skills 101, but nothing can kill (or at least severely maim) interest like a messy, dirty house. Whether you rent a bedroom in a house, live in an apartment or condo, or inhabit a mansion, the physical state of your abode is an irrefutable outward reflection of your inner character. Despite our living in a world where we are constantly told not to judge people by, well, anything about them that seems obvious to the naked eye, nobody actually does this. Everyone judges everyone else by their appearance and the appearance of anything they’re associated with. And if someone walks into your disaster of a house, it’s likely that they will take a moment to recoil, at least on the inside if they’re polite.
The home is a reflection of the mind. It is the physical manifestation of your inner being. Dirty, messy houses belong to people who don’t care. They belong to people who don’t know how to allocate their time, or aren’t capable of allocating their time, or are too lazy to allocate their time to basic upkeep, none of which are positive traits. While there are always some exceptions to the rule (cue this blog’s chorus of INLTs), it’s unusual to find a person who is organized and in control in their daily life who also lives in a sty.
Because people enjoy being in clean, organized spaces, one of the easiest ways to DHV is to keep a clean, organized home. I’m sure everyone has had the pleasure of walking in to a clean, organized home. It is a refreshment to the senses and immediately calming (unless it’s one of those places that has so much expensive, untouchable stuff that it’s nerve-wracking to be around it for fear of ruining something). If you’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, having a clean, organized house is a very fast way of assuring someone that you’re in control, organized, not lazy, and you pay attention to details.
Just a note: neat is not synonymous with clean. You can have a very neat bookshelf that has never been dusted. You can have a very organized bathroom with a toilet that only gets scrubbed once every six months. You can have a nicely decorated bedroom whose carpet never is vacuumed. Just because you don’t leave a trail of your belongings everywhere doesn’t mean you’re clean. A lot of people can be neat, but it’s rarer to find cleanliness with neatness. If you can do both, your stock will skyrocket.
As a side note, I am going out of town for Thanksgiving. This will most likely be my last blog post until next week. May everyone have a thanks-filled weekend.