While promoting his new book, comedian/author Steve Harvey tells CNN’s Frederica Whitfield that men and women can’t be just friends because, a la When Harry Met Sally, men want to have sex with their female friends and are only “friends” because the woman has LJBFed them yet they are still hopeful that there will be a chink in her LJBF armor at some point.
For the most part, I think this is true, but then how do you explain men with chubby female friends? Is this implicit confirmation that men like chubby girls, despite all the manosphere screeching to the contrary, or do men just like to keep a “safety” handy in case of sexless emergency? Maybe what we really need is definitions of “chubby” and “friend” that everybody agrees on. There’s just too much wiggle room for those terms. Also, is a woman who doesn’t really have any male friends yet is not getting asked on dates de facto unattractive to men (the logic being that if she is attractive, men will try to be her friend if they’re too scared to ask her out)?
Other questions that women might have about this topic that the men here can answer:
- You have a male friend who considers himself progressive, straightforward, and Unlike Other Men. He insists that you and he are, and will only be, Just Friends. Is he lying?
- You have a male friend who insists that you are a wonderful woman with many amazing qualities, but he needs to Pursue Jesus right now. Is he lying?
- You have a male friend who likes to have long, deep, one-on-one conversations with you, but he never asks you for a date. Is he attracted to you?
HT to ONTD. For good times and, um, ~insight~ into the mindset of single, college-age, non-religious, liberal millennials on this topic, read the comments.