I previously shared a reader’s dilemma with a nerdy engineer who asked her via email for hot chocolate “next week.” Reader emailed back a “yes” qualified by many mentions of friends and doing things as a group. Commenters duked it out with competing advice.
All of those with any investment in Reader’s boy problems will be happy to know that said email did not destroy NCEG and that he seems to have gotten the message. Reader wrote me:
I saw the “NCEG” with a few people last night, and he did not appear hurt, but nor did he mention hot chocolate again or really speak to me one-on-one (as he has in the past)! I feel like he may have still been looking at me admiringly though–I can’t be sure! And he offered to drive me home, which is in the opposite direction of where he lives. At first I said no, but then someone else decided to get a ride with him, so I went along. Hm. I’m hoping the right message has been sent!
“Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no'”? Is NCEG still smitten and plotting future email invitations for hot chocolate? You decide.