6 Apr

22 Responses to “Minefield.”

  1. Yvette Francino April 6, 2011 at 12:08 pm #

    Maybe this should end with:

    * Why did we ever get married? / Why did you leave me?

    Unfortunately, way too many “established couples” really do sound like this! It’s kind of funny/sad that when you’re in a bad relationship, no matter what the partner does, there seems to be a way to criticize it… (Often criticizing the very things they once “loved” about their partner.)

  2. Joseph Dantes April 6, 2011 at 12:11 pm #

    Just like an MRAsperger… who just doesn’t get it.

    Pick any one of those false dichotomies and I’ll deconstruct it.

    I’m reminded of Vox’s recent comment about female semi-deliberate obtuseness.

    Whole lotta that on this blog.

    Really, it’s not hard to figure out what men like.

  3. Simon Grey April 6, 2011 at 12:14 pm #

    balance is indeed a delicate thing

  4. Toz April 6, 2011 at 12:33 pm #

    I thought it was a cartoon of a wife nagging the husband until the “think like a man” thing came up. I think it’s more likely for a wife to want two diametrically opposed things than the husband.

  5. MW April 6, 2011 at 1:02 pm #

    Joseph, can you link to that Vox comment? Thx.

  6. Bob April 6, 2011 at 1:10 pm #

    Balance in all things. For instance, you can need help somtimes without needing help all the time, and strike as close a balance as possible for a given male. If you get the balance wrong, treat it as a male shit-test, maintain frame, and mentally note to re-adjust your own behavior in the future.

  7. enna. April 6, 2011 at 5:20 pm #

    And THAT is why I stopped reading most MRA material. I get confused enough about femininity as it is.

  8. Paige April 6, 2011 at 7:00 pm #

    Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

  9. Ceer April 6, 2011 at 7:25 pm #

    Beta comment:
    Here you go again, trying to find self contradiction in a topic where there’s not much contradiction. I suppose part of it is men online have obviously different purposes in terms of emphasis. You can help solve this by finding a single man and going for what HE wants instead of men in general. For a successful marriage, it only takes one.

    The other part of the puzzle was suggested by another commenter, that on some issues women have to walk a tightrope. This isn’t unlike what women make men do (see game) just to get in the front door.

    Alpha comment:
    Hamster at work

  10. Badger April 6, 2011 at 8:09 pm #

    I don’t really think this is such a minefield. You could drive several trucks through the gap between any panel on the left and its corresponding one on the right.

  11. Paige April 6, 2011 at 8:22 pm #

    Only women have irritating relationship behaviors. If a man seems annoying it is just the woman being stupid, cuz everything a man does is logical and consistent at all times.


    Look fella’s: Stop crying. Yes..women are annoying..but so are you. If you are allowed to make fun of our obnoxious behaviors then allow us the same courtesty thankyouverymuch.

  12. Badger April 6, 2011 at 11:10 pm #

    Between here, Dalrock and MMSL, Paige has had quite the coming-out party of obtuseness this week.

  13. Joseph Dantes April 6, 2011 at 11:44 pm #

    “What you’ve missed is that subtlety is entirely lost on women, especially young women. Women are astonishingly – and I would go so far as to argue willfully – obtuse when it comes to not understanding what they do not wish to understand. Ask any Gamma or Delta who has loyally laid his heart at a woman’s feet for months, if not years, and whose first romantic gesture is still treated as if it plunged unexpectedly out of orbit, just how observant women are of subtlety.

    Anything short of “don’t spread your pretty little legs for exciting losers” is going to be completely lost on PC’s daughters.”


  14. Paige April 7, 2011 at 12:09 am #

    Don’t badger me, Badger!

    (it was lame but I had to do it)

  15. Badger April 7, 2011 at 12:18 am #

    Better a badger than a hamster.

  16. Aunt Haley April 7, 2011 at 10:47 am #


  17. Jet Tibet April 7, 2011 at 11:42 am #

    Brilliant cartoon. And to think that I used to actually attempt to respond to questions like that.

    Now I just chuckle/ignor or agree/amplify ..

  18. detinennui32 April 9, 2011 at 10:16 am #

    When I ask questions like these of my wife, I get either a blank look which says “What are you talking about” or a fight in which I’m accused of being uncaring and insensitive to her feelings. With my wife, I have to be more … nuanced. But I still get testing, sometimes flakiness, and always, ALWAYS smacked in the face with her emotions. For all my wife’s many virtues, she is the most emotionally high-maintenance woman I’ve ever known.

    That said, I don’t agree with Paige’s gloating and tit-for-tat. Perhaps a little less hamster, a little less testing, a little less flaky, a little less entitled….

  19. Paige April 9, 2011 at 6:47 pm #

    I don’t care for seeing someone get a lot of negative feedback over a silly comic that was meant to get a laugh.

  20. Lia S. April 9, 2011 at 8:35 pm #

    Amazing how quick the testosterone levels rise when there is a joke poking in that direction, yet hamsters– oops I mean WOMEN who HAVE hamsters– are expected to just accept it all. Huh.

    Take a joke people! Human nature is annoying and NO you cannot use the NAMALT, either.

  21. Leon Battista April 11, 2011 at 2:55 pm #

    While I get that the comic is saying these mixed messages come from men, I’d venture the messages really come from society/culture, which is not driven by men. Perhaps this is why the joke is “lost” on the male readers.

  22. Jason April 13, 2011 at 3:45 pm #

    Sorry, was there a point to all that.

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