Every beta will recognize himself in “Superstud.”

31 May

I recently read Paul Feig’s memoir Superstud: Or How I Became a 24-Year-Old Virgin.  (For those who don’t recognize the name, Feig directed Bridesmaids and created the cult classic show Freaks and Geeks.)  The book begins with his discovery of “the rope feeling” at age 7 and ends with the end of his virginity at age 24.  In between, Feig’s journey to non-virginity reads like a compendium of mortifying beta male experiences, except funny, because Feig is a deft, honest writer and the young Paul Feig of the book is so earnest and so sweetly naive that you can’t help but find him lovable even as you’re groaning at all of his colossal beta mistakes.**  Additionally, Feig was raised as a Christian Scientist, which meant that his hormones were always at odds with God, and a lot of the humor from the book comes from Feig’s ongoing inner dialogue with God as he tries to bargain with God and rationalize away his desires.  I imagine that every guy raised in a Christian home can relate wholeheartedly.

If you liked Freaks and Geeks, you’re almost guaranteed to like this book.  The young Paul Feig is clearly the inspiration for the geeks on that show.  But even if you’ve never been exposed to any of Paul Feig’s work, Superstud is still worth reading because it’s so honest, funny, and sensitive about growing up in contemporary American society as an awkward beta male with romantic dreams in his head.  It’s also a nice antidote to the Roissyness that’s out there that’s all about cold calculation and shielding yourself from feelings while you spit out glossy negs, crusade against feminism and hypergamy, and judge women for failing to meet all of your criteria on your checklist of ideal femininity.  Not that there isn’t a place for Roissydom, but it’s nice to know that not all men hate themselves for having a marshmallow center, either.

**Such as asking out the girl with the biggest boobs in school and then taking her to an REO Speedwagon concert to impress her, only to get AMOGed by drunken twentysomethings at the show; deciding to move across the country for the summer in order to break up with a girl he didn’t really like; enduring a day at Cedar Point with his crush and her boyfriend after he and his crush had secretly made out; and getting the woman who eventually deflowered him up to his bedroom only to freak out and play two games of MouseTrap on his bed before forcing himself to face the music.

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5 Responses to “Every beta will recognize himself in “Superstud.””

  1. modernguy May 31, 2011 at 10:00 pm #

    Men don’t hate themselves for that, women do. Roissy is adapting.

  2. Nautilus June 1, 2011 at 10:09 am #

    This is my first comment, I’ve been stalking your blog for a while now. I was at first, shocked by the honesty to discover it was been authored by a woman.

    I’m a recovering beta, as of about a year ago. I’m 6’7″, 23 and am looks-wise a 7 or 8 on a good day. According to Rossy’s Dating Market Value Test, my score is a 17. I’m also a devout christian, and thus subscribe to the biblical rules of sex. Which means, I haven’t had any. It’s one of the frakking hardest things about following Christ, especially when you have options and a healthy sex drive.

    At the risk of sounding like a whiny omega, there are very few women that share the same ideals that are also very good looking. The reason being, attractive Christians (Both genders, 7+) get off scott-free if they mess around before marriage, because it’s almost expected of them. What do you think?

  3. Aunt Haley June 1, 2011 at 10:06 pm #

    Nautilus–
    Welcome!

    Good-looking/high value people will always have more options and more forgiveness than the lesser-blessed – Christians included. Them’s the breaks, unfortunately. (Why else would a former professional athlete with a past of defiling hundreds of women with impunity who’s now “on fire for God” be so attractive to a Christian woman while she ignores the virtuous cubicle dweller who’s resisted porn all of his life?) The SMP is all about trade-offs: you have to decide what your priorities are in a mate and then adjust your demand for other characteristics accordingly.

    Also, if you’re having trouble finding attractive women with rock-solid morals, then maybe you’re at the wrong church. At your age, there should be plenty of attractive and wholesome would-be pastor’s wives/SAHM wannabes/virginal homeschoolers waiting for their Christian prince to scoop them up by the age of 22.

  4. Nautilus June 3, 2011 at 9:22 am #

    @Haley

    That’s good advice. I’d certainly have better luck fishing in the big sea than a murky pond in rural Oklahoma, but my luck with online dating is worse than nil. Cest la vie.

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