Evaluation process of the average girl who hasn’t had a lot of dating success.
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13 Responses to ““Can I get him?”: breaking it down.”
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July 21, 2011
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July 23, 2011
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Good one Haley.
Of course these gradations largely apply to men as well — at least when it comes to committed relationships and not casual sex and other “FWB” encounters (which is why they suck and are ultimately soul-destroying unmitigated evil to so many women and men).
Your scale is off; to account for hypergamy, the left column should be shifted downward. In other words, equal smv should match with “why does this guy keep following me around’ or even with ‘does not exist.’
And that is an artifact of modern technological society where women have their own professional careers and reap the benefits and protections of the advanced civilization built by beta males. In a society where women were still dependent on men, the shift you describe would not occur.
Equal SMV is actually “He’s OK. I think I’ll keep him around as backup until I’m 38.”
There is a way to get “noticed” by the +1 and occasionally +2 guys. It’s very popular on college campuses these days.
I gotta go with Badger on this one. Unrestrained hypergamy has really shifted things. Add a third column for “His relative SMV with Game” and that will effectively address the hypergamy factor.
But the basic premise of the table is quite good.
“But the basic premise of the table is quite good.”
That it is. The fact that guys need to realize is that if you’re not on a woman’s radar, you’re REALLY not on a woman’s radar.
http://badgerhut.wordpress.com/2011/06/03/ladder-theory-for-men/
I agree with the equal, -1 and -2 SMV entries. However, the +1 and +2 SMV entries are off. Women feel entitled to guys like that.
OK, I have my own table:
http://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/07/21/can-i-get-him-to-commit-breaking-it-down/
Badger–
Maybe for a 21-year-old, but as a woman approaches 30 (and beyond), the scale becomes more accurate.
“Maybe for a 21-year-old, but as a woman approaches 30 (and beyond), the scale becomes more accurate.”
Speaking from personal experience?