Back in June, World magazine (a biweekly politically conservative evangelical newsmagazine) did a cover story on the problems Christian singles are having finding someone to marry. The viewpoints espoused by the interviewees sound nearly verbatim to opinions I’ve encountered (both online and in real life). Among them:
- Guys don’t know how to pursue in a manly or godly way
- Too many rejections
- Fear of divorce
- Dating scene crippled by IKDG – pressure not to date unless reasonably certain the other person is “the one” or at least realistically could be
- Too much focus on group activities
- Women don’t want to ask men out
- Women feel men are content with apathy towards dating and women
- Men feel women are too picky and only want to be asked out by certain men
- Men are overwhelmed by choice and keep holding out for someone better-looking, more spiritual, more intelligent, etc.
- Churches don’t do anything to help singles
Did the article miss anything? (Well, other than pointing out that everyone in America is just too darn fat and dresses like a slob.)
There’s also a sidebar one-page article called “A Man’s World,” in which (once again) the sexual economics of college campuses are discussed and (once again) the conclusion is reached that women are the losers and men are the winners. Of course, without discussing the alpha/beta distinction among men, this isn’t exactly an accurate depiction of the reality of the SMP of the college and singles scenes.