~Realistic expectations~

12 Aug

(Unbunch your britches, people. I’m doing a female one, too.)

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Categories Dating, Humor, Looks, Male/Female Relationships

9 Responses to “~Realistic expectations~”

R6T August 12, 2011 at 8:18 am #

LOL @ the neckbeard tuft.
Kane August 12, 2011 at 10:46 am #

How often do you meet men with very unrealistic expectations? I’d say 10:1, women are more likely to have unrealistic expectations than men. A lot of men I know have low expectations and low standards, due to women at their level only going for higher status guys.
Jennifer August 12, 2011 at 12:39 pm #

You are funny, Haley!!
detinennui32 August 13, 2011 at 4:45 am #

the observation is generally correct that men are sexually attracted to good looking women. But the sentiment expressed in the sketch proceeds from an incorrect premise that men are selective. When it comes to sexual attraction, they are not the least bit selective. Men’s filters on sexual attractiveness are much, much wider than those of women.

But I’m with Kane on this. more than half of all the women any given man meets are at least a little attractive to him, and would be datable. For initial attraction, all she has to be is minimally attractive and not grossly overweight.
Chris August 13, 2011 at 9:12 pm #

Umm… beautiful. Simply beautiful. Since I have been hit with the ugly stick, I know better that to use that line, unlike the otaku you drew.
jack August 14, 2011 at 7:06 am #

I’m sure that there are quite a few men who fit the above characterization. No one ever said men were little angels.

Other point:

My suspicion is that most beta men (even a large portion of Christian men) would be gladly banging away if they were able to do so. Being beta does not make one virtuous. It simply restricts opportunity.

That is why women must be gatekeepers of sex at all times.
Badger August 14, 2011 at 8:13 am #

“But the sentiment expressed in the sketch proceeds from an incorrect premise that men are selective.”

Yours is a good point, but the sentiment appears to be more of an accusation that men have higher standards for women than they do for themselves, filtered through the evangelical truthism that “men aren’t manning up and asking women out.”

Women are hypergamous, not men, so the sketch is backwards in that respect.
Sure, guys fantasize about really hot women, but we generally know where our league is wrt LTR.

The sketch also doesn’t square with my experience. The men I know who seek the company of women are doing whatever they can to make themselves attractive, both sexually and relationshipwise – that includes all the regular crap about treating her “nice,” flashing cash, being too available, etc. I don’t know a single man (IRL) who is saying “I’d like to date but these women won’t get their act together.”

If anything, reading a site like My Crazy Girlfriend suggests men’s standards for girlfriends are actually too low.
imnobody August 17, 2011 at 10:22 am #

(Disclaimer: I am slim and I have no belly so I have no axe to grind)

Not only isn’t this sketch right, it is not even wrong!!

First: As some people have said, men are not selective about dating, they are selective about committing. So if you replace “dating” by “marrying” you will be closer to the truth.

Second: The sketch is based on the idea that fat men and fat women are similar in the Mating Market, but this is not true. Men and women have different interests.

Men are obsessed about looks when mating. Looks matter for women but not to the same extent than for men. Women appreciate other things: social dominance, wealth, status, personality.

So the male equivalent to a fat woman is not a fat man, it is a loser.
Strong Man August 20, 2011 at 7:26 am #

Well put! This is fun and a good reminder!

The first step for a man getting good mates is to step up his own game and personality–but imnobody puts it very well–for a man getting a high-paying job or other status and strong personality traits may be at least as important as getting his looks together.