Do married people know any single people? Why does it seem like once people get married, they’re sucked into a “young marrieds” vortex, never to be seen again by those
eternally cruising eHarmony?
I feel like the process goes something like this:
- Two young people from the singles group start dating.
- Group expresses approval. Single women force down their
bitternessjealousy if the man is attractive.
- Engagement! Everyone cheers.
- Wedding with many references to God’s blessings.
- Newlyweds disappear into the Young Marrieds Vortex, where the ratio of singles to marrieds in all further social activities is 1:20 at most.
- Couple buys a minivan and will have a child seat in the car for the next 10 years.
I’ve taken flack here for not having a social circle where people seem to know any single men who would be potential marriage material for me (or for them). But do young marrieds (or older marrieds, for that matter) really know that many eligible bachelors or bachelorettes? It seems like young marrieds are just relieved that they actually found someone worth marrying, and now that their task has been completed, everyone else is off their radar. And older marrieds, particularly in the church, have social lives that almost exclusively revolve around socializing with other married couples. If someone is single, it’s because that person was widowed.
Readership, if you have young married friends, do they have a social circle that includes singles that they could set you up with, or do you find that they’ve been sucked into the Young Marrieds Vortex?