Most advice about marriage in the manosphere revolves around sex, who’s having it, who’s not having it, how to get it, how to get more than you’re getting, and how to get better than you’re getting if you’re getting any at all. This is understandable since the internet is full of men who are only moderately attractive to women at best but still managed to get married. (To make this equal opportunity: the internet is also full of women who are only moderately attractive to men at best and care very much for their cats.)
In comparison, there is a mere pittance of discussion of marriage as a form of companionship. From reading the manosphere, you’d think that marriage basically boils down to the five minute seal flop. Which is not to say that sex isn’t an important part of marriage, but most people, even the married, are doing something else during the other 23 hours, 55 minutes of the day.
When you think about it, the older you get, the more necessary it is to be married to have any sort of guaranteed companionship. Here’s why:
Once people get married, they tend to drop off the face of the planet since 92% of their energy is now being directed into their spouse. (Make that 99.999% if kids are in the picture.) So there go all of your married friends. Then, all of your single friends tend to be desperate, and so if one of your friends is so fortunate as to find someone to date, the special someone eats up the lion’s share of your unmarried friend’s time. That leaves you with the least sexually attractive friends left in your group, but even those people may have other obligations eating up their time. Sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s church or other organizations, sometimes it’s being the free babysitter for all of your married friends’ kids, but I’ve found that often in the case of women, their families eat up their time. If a girl lives in the same town as her parents, she may spend a lot of time with them. If a girl lives WITH her parents, you’ll see her once a month, tops.
Additionally, you can’t be friends with a member of the opposite sex. You can’t be friends with a married person of the opposite sex, because that person’s spouse will become jealous. You can’t be friends with a single member of the opposite sex, either. It’ll either get weird because one person has more feelings than the other person, or it’ll die because the one person found someone to date. Or it’ll get weird because you and the special someone hate each other. Being friends with members of the same sex leads nowhere. (Who doesn’t feel pity towards single-sex groups of late 30-somethings/40-somethings when you see them out on a Saturday night
dolled up in their best Kohl’s?)
So, ultimately, the only possible recourse for continuous companionship is marriage.
Of course, the wrinkle of marriage is that in order to get the companionship, you have to find someone you could conceivably give the five minute seal flop to with abandon every day for the rest of your life….