Christians usually try to care about other people’s feelings, which is why Christian criticism of non-gay, non-abortion things tends to be pretty toothless. No one wants to run the risk of turning a potential away from the Lord FOREVERRRR by hurting that person’s
ego feelings, so there are a lot of roundabout and sometimes passive-aggressive comments instead.
However, there is at least one situation where you really shouldn’t care about the other person’s feelings, and that is when there is sexual chemistry between you and someone where at least one of you is married. Getting married doesn’t mean other people cease to be attractive. Sometimes that just means the other person becomes MORE attractive, just like people on a diet find cake that much more enticing.
But basically, if you find yourself in a situation where a married person is attractive to you (and especially if you sense that you are attractive to that other person), you should just walk away and not worry if the other person thinks you’re rude or uncaring or whatever. It’s more important to honor that person’s marriage (and spouse) than to try to keep up some facade of friendship. The bottom line is that you can’t have that person, so why invest any more time in him (or her)? Why make it more difficult to extract yourself? It can’t lead to the place that you want it to go…at least, not without a lot of destruction in its wake.
I mean, don’t be intentionally MEAN, but don’t make that person a point in your life. That person should be a non-point.