I don’t know if I’m just getting punchy before the holidays or what, but lately I’ve been feeling really irritated at how frumpy so many women are. Frumpy clothes, frumpy hair – and then they wonder why no guys are paying attention to them, or they’re only getting attention from the guys they don’t want.
It’s not just frumpiness of style, either; it’s also plain old being plain. Timid. Unimaginative. If you look like the personification of beige yet remain stumped as to why a guy can’t see the beautiful personality that your mom, grandma, and all of your female friends see, wellllll.
Sometimes you got to help a brother out. Men are visual creatures. Make it easy for him, not harder.
In other words, make every day a hot day. Don’t wait for an occasion to look hot; make looking hot your regular look. If you wait for a perfect occasion for looking hot, chances are it’ll never happen. Stop looking for excuses, and just do it. You feel a little fat today? Doesn’t matter, make it a hot day. Got a zit? Doesn’t matter, make it a hot day. You’re tired? Doesn’t matter, make it a hot day. You’re not going anywhere special? Doesn’t matter, make it a hot day. You don’t think you’re pretty? Doesn’t matter, make it a hot day.
Just to clarify – a hot day doesn’t mean dressing like you’re going to the club. It means looking attractive, on top of things, classy, intelligent, and interesting. Aim for smart-sexy, not club-trampy.
Do you need a style revamp? Consider your answers to the following questions:
Do people regularly compliment your outfits?
If you are not getting regular compliments on what you wear, then you probably need to step it up a notch or two.
Has anyone complimented your haircut when you’ve just gotten it cut?
If no one has told you that your hair looks good after a haircut, then you’ve been paying someone who doesn’t deserve your money. Find someone new to cut your hair, and keep going to someone new until you start getting compliments.
Do you read any fashion magazines or blogs?
If you don’t, I recommend People Stylewatch. Its specialty is accessible (read: normal person) fashion, not couture, and showcases clothes at a variety of price points. I also recommend the TLC show What Not to Wear. Stacy and Clinton tend to style everyone the same, but it’s good for middle-America office-worker fashion and tips on how to put together outfits, and most of the people they make over are average-looking.
If you don’t have anyone in your life whose opinion your trust about your appearance, feel free to send me some pictures for a critique. I will give you an honest assessment and won’t share your photos with anyone.
P.S. This is most likely my final blog post of 2012, as I am leaving for my hometown on Friday and won’t be back until the new year. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all. Thanks for reading!