Mention “submitting to your husband” to the average woman, and she’ll look at you like you just suggested that the U.S. should bring back slavery. These days submission has such a negative rep that trying to sell women on submission is like trying to sell paleo dieters some carbs. In my opinion, given the current cultural climate, trying to pound the submission drum is just going to come up against a lot of resistance.
Last weekend I had lunch with a recently married friend and got onto the subject of submission. While she had a knee-jerk reaction to the word itself, she actually agreed that deference was a part of her marriage and that it worked for her and her husband. So maybe submission just needs rebranding. When a woman hears “submit,” she thinks “become a doormat, throw brains out the window, let husband become a tyrannical dictator.” Of COURSE women are going to reject submission when it is so closely correlated with those ideas. But deference – and the connotation of agency involved in the decision – that seems a little more appealing.
So maybe the subject should be approached from that angle – ladies, can you defer to your husbands’ decision-making?
I suppose we can quibble over whether women should just suck it up and ACCEPT that the Bible says submission so therefore they have to SUBMIT whether they like it or not, but there’s also a reason that chewable pills taste like fruit, so………