Guys, I’m a little late on this one, but if you needed more proof that Joshua Rogers is the Pajama Boy of Boundless, then go read “Stop Worshiping Your Virginity”.
Yes, we’ve reached the point where mainstream Christian thought has been reduced to this:
If you’re a Christian virgin, you are no more righteous than anyone else (regardless of how long you’ve been wearing that promise ring). And if you’re not a virgin, you are no less righteous than anyone else — the only thing that makes you righteous is faith in the perfect blood of Jesus. Whatever you did (or didn’t do) in the past simply isn’t part of the Christian equation when it comes to your worth, so you can go ahead and stop obsessing over your virginity now.
I don’t know how many adult Christian virgins Rogers happens to know, but generally speaking, there aren’t a whole lot of virgins, even in the church, past 25 or so. Most of them aren’t proud of it. Most of them wish that they could find someone to lose it with (in marriage or otherwise). And most of them don’t go around telling others about it. Even among people that it would be “safe” to discuss it with, they don’t talk about it. Where does Rogers live that he is knowingly running into haughty adult virgins???
Most people who survive well into adulthood still virgins don’t do so because so many people were offering up sex and they, out of immense moral superiority, were about to deny all of the would-be sexers. Usually, it’s more like “I couldn’t get a date, and when I could, the other person wasn’t that attractive, so….nope.”
Anyhow, regarding the quote above: yes, in a spiritual sense, we are all “equal” in that we have all been forgiven of our sins. And no, remaining a virgin doesn’t in and of itself make you more virtuous than someone else. But let’s be real, sex has pretty obvious and life-altering consequences, in a way that is significantly different from uttering a swear word or having a selfish thought, and we, being human, tend to assign different weights to actions whose consequences tend to have different weights. Why is this a fundamentally bad thing? I mean, we live in a Christian culture where you can have a man sobbing because he realized that he hasn’t been as nice to his wife as Christ would be to the church…….but try to say that there are real-world consequences for sexual sin, and one of those consequences may be that men, on the whole, will find you less desirable for marriage, and suddenly you’re a tool of the devil spreading lies??!?!?
No one is saying that sexual sin will absolutely prevent you from finding a spouse, but Christians respond AS IF you had said that when you say that sexual sin (especially for a woman) makes it harder to get married to the type of person you would want to marry. It’s like the concept of sexual market value and sexual options cannot exist in Christian-world, even though we see that reality play out in every church in America. But if the Boundless commenters are a microcosm of the church, then there is a very strong will within the church to deny the reality of SMV, or that sexual history matters….which is pretty much exactly the same thing you could read on a feminist website.