I haven’t had a chance to see the episode that aired yesterday yet, but TLC’s YouTube channel has some clips up. Because I am such a generous blogger, I’ve embedded them here.
If anyone had a chance to see the show, please weigh in.
(Virgin Carey goes on a date with a woman who is really perplexed by his ~status and asks if he has any “subscriptions.”)
(Virgin engaged couple discuss the agenda for their wedding night, which includes “do foreplay.”)
(Tamara, the reclaimed virgin, reveals her “number” and says she had sex with each of her previous boyfriends, but that now she has had such a life change that when she has sex again, it’ll be like being a virgin all over again.)
Haley's Halo 
Very unpretty girls.
Not interested.
7 dudes in 10 years. Well, I was really wrong on that one. I’m glad she turned her life around, but that kind of hopping from boyfriend to boyfriend does not bode well.
There’s nothing wrong with changing your ways, but virginity cannot be “reclaimed”. One cannot undo all of the physical and emotional experiences that come with sex. To proclaim otherwise is foolish.
No matter what you do, you can’t erase the fact you had sex. The linking hormones kick in and try to connect you to that person. The fact that she failed to bond after that for whatever reason is a red flag. Also, you have germ transfer. This can lead to disease. I don’t know if she HAS a disease, but she really needs to be tested before she goes all public like this.
If you’ve had sex, you’re not a virgin (never had sex before). Please don’t claim so because you look like you think virgins are too stupid to figure it out. You can claim to be living chastely (rightly ordered sexual practice) though. Most people don’t realize this, but in terms of morality, chastity is more important than virginity. The idea of moral living looks to correct future action by past example.
I saw the last 15 minutes. The dude is weird, the girls will soon be played by a dumpster diver, and I’m pretty sure the married couple will become divorced when the dude realizes he isn’t actually attracted to his wife. . .or to women in general.
A–
Come on, that’s less than one per year on average. Maybe she was monogamous with all of those guys and only discovered after the fact that they weren’t Mr. Right!
Ceer–
That’s an important distinction between virginity and chastity.
Ulysses–
Maybe a post on gaydar is warranted. And the single virgin guy, well……yeah. He’s weird.
I didn’t intend to tune in, but I was channel surfing last night and it was on, so I flipped back and forth between that and the world pumpkin catapult championships hosted by the Mythbusters crowd (definitely added attending that event to my bucket list!).
Anyways, I think the new husband is just a wuss, not a closet case. His wife sure was cute though, and really into him. Definitely better than he could land in the secular marketplace.
The nerdy bachelor was a good example of a guy who could benefit from getting fit/a wardrobe makeover and learning some game. Here’s tip number one: Don’t tell your first date in 8 years that she is your first date in 8 years.
Those girls. Wow. I’d never date someone who lived in a henhouse like that. So toxic. And PS, it’s great that they’re (mostly) virgins. That is one of the qualities that I would like my future wife to have. But it seems like they’re coasting on that. What other qualities did they have to attract a husband? Playing crappy guitar songs and laughing incredibly loudly? There was no mention at all of what they would bring to a marriage besides unused plumbing.
The virgin wife struck me as the textbook definition of “horny Christian virgin dying to have Twilight sex.” (At least based on the clip above.)
You say “horny Christian virgin” like it’s a bad thing. I’m not sure what Twilight sex is: sex where the guy just looks at you soulfully but doesn’t bite you?
Twilight sex = pain only comes after extreme bed-smashing passion
The show was beyond awkward to watch. I respect the couples decision to save their first kiss but they needed to keep it simple. The guy looked like he was trying to swallow his new bride. I thought the interview at the end of the show where they are talking about their first time was funny. They really thought ther first time was going to be amazing. Did any of their friends warn them. Maybe it is because I am older and most of my friends are married, but I have heard enough horror stories to not expect much on my wedding night. The three roomates would scare any emotionally healthy man off. Their absurd expectations are ruining their chances at a solid match. I also thought it was interesting that none of the Christian’s on the show discussed chastity at all. If the roomates don’t get married soon I predict they will give their virginity to the next available alpha. I pray my prediction is wrong.
That first kiss – was he trying to eat her? They should have practised!
“horny Christian virgin dying to have Twilight sex.”
Ha ha ha!
You say “horny Christian virgin” like it’s a bad thing.
Indeed. Also, I have to say that the female half of the couple is quite cute, while he is a total herb. How the h— did that happen!
If the roomates don’t get married soon I predict they will give their virginity to the next available alpha.
If they’ve held out this long, that would seem unlikely.
I respect the couples decision to save their first kiss but they needed to keep it simple. The guy looked like he was trying to swallow his new bride.
A non-religious girl I know (very young and quite nerdy, so she may be a virgin herself) watched the show. Her Facebook update said something to the effect of: “Dear God, make them stop!”
“Tamara, the reclaimed virgin, reveals her “number” and says she had sex with each of her previous boyfriends, but that now she has had such a life change that when she has sex again, it’ll be like being a virgin all over again.”
Tamara’s hamster’s has a baritone voice…..hmm, interesting.
The whole self aggrandizing tone is annoying. I’m walking away.
She says that next time it will be like “never having had sex before”.
Seeing as how she’s probably never had sex with an awkward beta who can’t wipe the stupid grin off his face, then yes, it will probably be a very new experience for her.
“Also, I have to say that the female half of the couple is quite cute, while he is a total herb.”
Hey, now. Let’s not cast stones here. ;)
I give these folks points for honesty. But this was painful to watch. Best wishes to them but talk about awkward! The two guys desperately need role models with regard to masculinity and how they carry themselves around women.
Ugh, “Swamp People” is better, and I can’t stand THAT show. >;->
JG–
The two guys desperately need role models with regard to masculinity and how they carry themselves around women.
Well, the one guy found a cute girl who wanted to chew his face off, so he must be doing something right. That’s a pretty impressive feat for a guy that one commenter here deemed “a closet case” and another commenter “a wuss.”
His closeted/wussy personality probably causes him to be an aloof master!
I still can’t believe they let a girl just deem herself a virgin. The producers must think she’ll give in quickly and give them some good TV.
Well, “reclaimed virginity” (I’ve usually heard it referred to as “secondary virginity”) is a real thing in churchly circles. So regardless of TLC’s motives in including such a woman in the show, it’s realistic to have her there.
“reclaimed virginity” is bulls–t. She’s a virgin or not a virgin, no in-between there. If any woman told me she was something similar, I’d throw her out. No hamster soup will be consumed in my presence. Just tell me she’s not a virgin and I’ll figure out whether she is still relationship material or not.
I wonder if we will start seeing re-virginization surgeries like the muslims have.
This woman shouldn’t bring up virginity at all. If she were smart, she’d keep quiet, and if pressed, say that she had a sinful youth but has since been saved. Hopefully she can find some mark that doesn’t have a problem with her having slept around and now wanting to make him wait. I have a feeling that the “rock star” wouldn’t stand for it though.
“This woman shouldn’t bring up virginity at all.”
Yeah, I think you’re right. A discerning man will be able to put two and two together during the course of a relationship and decide if he’s in or out(no pun – if it was one – was intended). Bringing attention to new found virtue just raises suspicions and is sad.
I also noted her low voice.
High-T.
I only watched the last clip. Pretty interesting how the girls – especially the first one, I guess – avow their virginity with a tone and facial expression that makes it clear that being a virgin at 30 is, like, something that should be considered super-embarrassing and almost shameful. Maybe I’m misreading her, but watch her at the 16-second mark – “Can you believe I’m actually a virgin?” is pretty much what she conveys to me.
We all know that being a 40-year-old virgin is shameful for a male. But for a 30-year-old woman? Turbulent times we live in.
Right Anon, you’ll just take a minute to determine her worthiness.
Perfect suggestion, ASDF.
«We all know that being a 40-year-old virgin is shameful for a male.»
Why?
Why?
Come on, really? In the secular world, it shows that you can’t get laid. In the religious world, it shows that you can’t get married. It’s only not shameful if you’re a priest or a monk or something, and even then people look at you funny because you’ve never experienced one of life’s (quasi) essential activities.
ASDF,
Some people are omega males without any hope of ever attracting a woman that they, in turn, can feel attraction for. That’s just the way it is for a small group of people, there’s nothing they can do about it, and they have no reason to feel ashamed. I’m a 44-year-old virgin who gave up chasing the impossible (in my case, a woman in my league that I felt attracted to) over ten years ago. As a (at best) 2 on the 10 point scale, I simply could not feel attraction for my female counterparts. So I stopped trying and focused on other areas of my life. I don’t care how other people feel about it; I feel no shame.
Acceptance, responsibility, action. Those are the keywords of living. Accepting ourselves for what we are is the first step. Being comfortable with ourselves, by ourselves if need be, the way we are. Whether we are insanely pretty or horribly deformed (but most probably somewhere in between), we are what we are and no amount of wishing will change this. This step will require self-honesty and insight.
Wow this show was very interesting. The virgin couple was a train wreck. someone should have helped her out with tips on how to kiss, she looked as if she was sucking the life out of him. And her creepy father was odd saying something like how he wished he could be a fly on the wall so he could watching there first time. all i have to say is practice, practice, practice.
and the guy, i don’t believe he really wants as he put it a piece of the action or he would have had sex with that crazy lady.