One part of my church’s Sunday service that I would happily do away with is the time when the pastor tells everyone to stand up and greet other people. It’s one of the most useless ways of forcing people to “get to know each other.” Most people are horrible at talking to people they don’t know, so just add in the pressure of being forced to do it, and you end up with a lot of really limp handshakes and lack of eye contact. My church is particularly terrible at eye contact. Most people I shake hands with, other than all of the old people who are delighted to see a younger person at an early service, are not even looking at me when they say hello and shake my hand. They’re already glancing off in the distance, probably at their next limp hand-shaking victim.
This got me thinking about interactions with the opposite sex. If you’re on a date with someone, or even meeting someone, it’s important to make eye contact. If you’re trying to talk to someone and they’re looking everywhere except at you(r face – boobs don’t count), it’s pretty obvious that the person is not interested and has a bunch of other things they’d rather be doing. It’s pointless to talk to the side of someone’s face. I hope that the next time this happens to me, I’ll just walk away rather than politely endure the awkwardness.