One thing that I’ve started noticing on manosphere blogs is commenters seeking advice about their woman situations and prefacing their comments with “I’m pretty alpha (but)…”.
The minute I see that, I know that the following discussion will most likely reveal the commenter to be not-alpha. Not just because that’s the rule of irony on the internets, but simply because an alpha IS. Alpha is a state of mind and a state of being. An alpha doesn’t examine himself and conclude, “Yep, I’ve gone down the checklist and it turns out I’m pretty alpha.” An alpha just does his thing with the inner confidence that he’s doing what he’s doing and that’s that. So many guys trying to apply game get caught up in “it’s alpha to do this but beta to do that,” and that is fundamentally a beta frame to begin with, because a genuine alpha would already be off doing his thing and not worrying about whether or not he was doing alpha stuff or beta stuff. This isn’t to say that alphas can’t have moments of real self-doubt, and it’s also not to condescend to men who are truly trying to change their courses – but generally speaking, outcome independence is a good brightline test for alpha-dom.
For the purposes of internet discussion – saying you’re alpha before showing you’re alpha is like saying you’re funny before you’ve shown you’re funny. If you’re really alpha, or really funny, people will get it without you having to tell them first.